Ellen: Is it easier raising boys or
girls?
Safaree: Boys! It's like with the
boys, everything was so smooth. It was all good. It wasn't really a
lot of difference. Now when she was pregnant with a girl, everything
was crazy. That's how you know it's girl stuff. Everything breezy
with boys, but with a girl it was crazy snacks and moods. Like Nicki
wanted to do what she wanted when she wanted even if it's waking
someone up at 3 in the morning to watch something like the brave
little toaster. I look over and she's crying talking about it's sad
that the master hasn't used the old vacuum cleaner. Like what does
that movie even mean? It can be 4 in the morning and she wants to go
to a grocery store to buy like a simple 4 pack of gingersnap cookies
to dip in this frosting she ate the entire pregnancy. I can go to
Sam's Club and buy a 24 pack case of oreos with frosting already in
it but no. Ain't that crazy? Like just eat a poptart and let me
sleep.
Ellen: So I take it you prefer sons.
Safaree: Yeah, I love my little
guys. I mean I love my mini queen too but it was Nicki that was dying
for a girl. I was just happy with whatever. I was never specific.
Ellen: So you'll just hope for the
healthy baby.
Safaree: I think everybody prays for
a healthy baby. If we had a sick baby, we'd love it no less than our
other coons.
Ellen: Mini queen, huh?
Safaree: She's in training.
Ellen: Is she in control?
Safaree: She thinks she is. She even
has a scream like it's how she gives demands.
Ellen:
Do you have a favorite child?
Safaree: India.
Ellen: I thought you preferred sons!
Safaree: Yeah, but she shades Nicki
the most.
Ellen: Tell me about it.
Safaree: Nicki hates when I get
attention from the kids. She wants to be the favorite parent the kids
run behind so when they run behind me, she's usually somewhere in the
back giving the side eye being a loser.
Ellen: Do you find it annoying when
she does the side eye?
Safaree: You kind of get used to it.
Ellen: So that's not the most
annoying thing?
Safaree: The most annoying thing...
is when she hogs my pillow.
Ellen: Really?!
Safaree: I don't even know how or
why but she always end up laying on her pillow and sleeping on mine.
Like I got a big head so I need space. I'll wake up in the middle of
the night and my head close to falling off the bed but I look over
and she's good and comfy.
Ellen: Does Nicki snore?
Safaree: She'll huff and puff the
skin off my face.
Ellen: I take it she sleeps in your
face.
Safaree: Yeah, sometimes. Mostly we
face each other, other times we'll just spoon.
Ellen: How does that work when she's
pregnant?
Safaree: She sleeps on her back most
of the time. It's rare that she will turn over on her side.
Ellen: How is she when she's
pregnant? Does she give attitude? Does she like to be touched?
Safaree: She's not like the ladies
that don't want you to touch her. She wants you to touch her and
stuff. Like she wants you to rub her belly, massage her feet, rub her
back and stuff.
Ellen:
One thing you hate about Nicki when she's pregnant?
Safaree: You can't ever go against
her when she's pregnant. You're always in the wrong if you mess with
a pregnant woman and Nicki takes that to the extreme. You can't be
mean, you can't say no, you can't disagree, you can't not want to,
you can't with anything that's the opposite of what she's on. She
play the emotional card so quick. And she doesn't even get emotional.
She's just always the same. But that's her game and she's gonna get
her way.
Ellen: Is that just for you or that
goes for everyone?
Safaree: Everyone. Even the little
coons.
Ellen: Do the kids ever pile up in
the bed with you two?
Safaree: I drag them out of the bed
all the time. I don't know who they think they are.
Ellen: They take over, huh?
Safaree: They will definitely try.
Especially if they post up and watch movie after movie. They will all
stretch different ways and leave me no room to get in my own bed. I'm
like a piece of furniture sometimes. Caleb will turn your leg into an
arm rest stabbing you with his elbow. Sheldon will put his big head
right in your view so you can't even see the tv. It's crazy.
Ellen: Do you have a big bed?
Safaree: Yeah, it's big. I think
that's why they like to climb in it. They got a lot of space. It's
crazy how small bodies can take up so much space.
Ellen: But it's plenty of space when
it's just you and Nicki?
Safaree: Yeah, but we always end up
right next to each other like we are in a small bed.
Ellen: You two seem inseparable.
Safaree: We are.
Ellen: You remember what attracted
you to Nicki?
Safaree: Nicki was very strong
minded. And that's with everything. She's always known what she
wants. She'll know what she's working towards. She'll know it all and
have her mind set on it. I was the type who just went with the flow.
I was content with just making it in the moment. Nicki was more
ambitious. I admire that cause she is so strong minded about life and
she brings that out of me. I think that's one of the things I was
really attracted to. She knows what she wants and what she don't
want. And she's fearless when it comes to letting you know. Like she
will bite your head off but not to be like a bitch or whatever like
people would say. But she acts like that because she cares. It's
something about a woman with a good head on her shoulders. You got so
many women who just rely on surviving off of being a gold digger or
being lazy in life. That's not attractive.
Ellen: Yeah?
Safaree: Yeah. And she has sexy
eyes.
Ellen: Oh now we're getting
somewhere.
Safaree: Everything is sexy about
her.
Ellen: And she wears the sexy
outfits.
Safaree: Yeah.
Ellen: Did you ever have a problem
with that? Were you offended by her going in public showing off like
that?
Safaree: If she was doing it just
because then I wouldn't like it. I know she does some stuff as part
of work. They label her as a sex symbol so she will throw a tease out
there, but it's nothing I hold a grudge about. It's mine.
Elen: So did you ever feel some sort
of jealousy when other men approached her? You know, try to talk to
her and flirt with her.
Safaree: Nah, we laugh at them.
Ellen: Have they ever approached her
in front of you?
Safaree: A lot back then when we
kept our personal lives private and no one knew.
Ellen: What's the craziest thing
someone's said to her in a situation like that?
Safaree: One time some dude said
something about drop these chicken dinners and get with a winner. We
were just like what? We laughed for the longest after that. Til this
day, she will still joke around some time calling me a chicken dinner
at random.
Ellen:
But she likes chicken, so it all works out. Tell
us about the tattoos that you got of Nicki.
Safaree:
Oh yeah, I got plenty of tattoos. I got her face like twice.
Ellen:
Do they have any significance or just random tattooes?
Safaree:
I just like the picture so I go get it. I got her name on my chest.
That's the one with significance. That's why I put it there. The
other ones are just because I think they're cool.
Ellen:
Does Nicki secretly have your name tattooed anywhere?
Safaree:
Nah, she's not into tattoos. She'll look at em but she's scared of
getting them.
Ellen:
You think she would ever get another one like a spur of the moment
thing?
Safaree:
She will dance around the idea but she definitely wouldn't get it. So
she just come with me and walk around looking at stuff. Like she
would want to get meaningful things like the kids names and stuff
like that but she won't go through with it. She'll just like the idea
of it.
Ellen:
Then you can get em.
Safaree:
No, she's not going to want me to get her ideas.
Ellen: So she accompanies you at the
tattoo parlor?
Safaree: A couple of times. She came
along to keep me company.
Ellen: What else do you two do
together like that?
Safaree: I went to this paint thing
with her. Like it was her and Sherika going to this place for this
relaxation thing where they do a bunch of meditating stuff and I
dropped by for a little during the painting part. It was no big deal.
Everyone had the same picture but you had to paint it in. She brought
it home thinking she was Picasso.
Ellen: Did that become one of her
new hobbies?
Safaree: She did it again and I saw
she liked it so I bought her a few of them so she could do them
whenever she wanted. But I think she likes it more actually going out
and doing it. She won't have to worry about the kids bothering her or
messing with it.
Ellen: There's some things you have
to do away from the kids.
Safaree: Yeah.
Ellen: You have things you have to
do away from the kids?
Safaree: I kind of like the kids
around when I do stuff. Everything I like, I want the kids to like.
That way when I give it up only because I have to, they can carry it
on.
Ellen: Do you force things on them?
Like are there things that they don't like but you try to push it on
them?
Safaree: Only thing I can think of
is Sheldon doesn't like jewelry like I do. He doesn't like anything.
I mean nothing. Nothing at all. It's weird. Who doesn't like jewelry?
Ellen: Is Caleb into jewelry?
Safaree: Yeah. He wanted a chain
like mine.
Ellen: He get one?
Safaree: Nah, Nicki was buggin. He
got a small one. He'll upgrade when he gets older.
Ellen: Maybe Sheldon will take an
interest by then. But hey, does he like the bikes?
Safaree: Yeah, yeah. I got him one
because he was always climbing on Caleb's bike. Long as he feeling
that, we good.
Ellen: You pick up a lot of hobbies.
What's your latest hobby?
Safaree: I haven't really picked up
nothing new unless it's work related. I don't know.
Ellen: Oh, tell me about your
business. You were doing the clothes at first and you kind of took a
huge leap over to something else that has nothing to do with clothes.
Safaree: Actually, it was linked. I
was doing the clothes that turned into something bigger than just my
line of custom shirts. Then I had the idea to do like bike gear. It
was supposed to be it's own section but at the same time I was
spending a lot of time at different shops. I'm obsessed with that
stuff. I grew up with that stuff. So one day I was just like I should
open my own shop and sell bike gear.
Ellen: And it went bigger?
Safaree: Yeah, I hired a few guys
who got crazy talent and they customize bikes. So it's like a fantasy
I made a reality. I turned my hobby into work. I'll never get tired
of it.
Ellen: Did you see yourself where
you're at now 10 years ago?
Safaree: No way.
Ellen: Where'd you think you'd be?
Safaree: Somewhere working a job I
hate just to make it.
Ellen: You were into the music
thing, right? Why are you laughing? Was that funny?
Safaree: It's crazy you brought that
up.
Ellen: Is it something you think you
would have been into?
Safaree: Nah. It was just something
to do. Like when you trying to come up, you go for hustles. It was
something we was good at and tried but I don't think I would have
made a career out of it. It wasn't a passion or anything.
Ellen: So that's all Nicki.
Safaree: Yeah, that's all Nicki.
Ellen: Do you two have hobbies that
you share?
Safaree: I mean we don't have like
the same stuff we like to do because we have that in common but it's
more like we will do what the other likes every now and then to spend
time together.
Ellen: What kind of things?
Safaree: I'm big on being fit now so
sometimes she will work out with me.
Ellen: You two don't usually work
out together?
Safaree: I mean I do my thing with
my guys. She does her things with her trainer. We have different
workouts so nah we don't work out together. So sometimes when we work
out together, it's just us playing around and stuff. It's like having
fun with small little competitions and just goofing around.
Ellen: What kind of competitions?
Safaree: Nicki will make a
competition out of anything. She swear she can keep up. She got
better, I give her that but let's be real. She's not keeping up.
Ellen: What's the most impressive
move in your workouts together?
Safaree: You know what... she's
actually good at crunches. She used to struggle. Now like she will be
holding India and busting like 50 crunches like it's all a game. I
think her playing with the kids like that actually got her to that
point.
Ellen: So the kids are her workout.
Safaree: Now that I really think
about it, yeah. Like she will really be holding a baby up like over
her head supporting her with her knees and busting these crunches
while kissing her. And sometimes Caleb stands on her feet and count
for her. That's how I know how many she does.
Ellen: Do the kids ever join in and
have a family workout?
Safaree: I got Caleb some light
weight bells. Sheldon has these fake ones. They think they're working
out. Caleb a trip. He will have a towel and water like he really
doing something. That's my guy though.
Ellen: Sounds like the kids always
find a way to be around.
Safaree: Yeah.
Ellen: What's one thing you used to
do around the house that you can't do now because of the kids?
Safaree: Like... obvious stuff.
Ellen: Oh, of course but besides
that.
Safaree: It's so much stuff.
Ellen: A lot?
Safaree: The way Nicki is about the
kids, you got to watch a lot of stuff you do and say. She doesn't
want them picking up certain stuff.
Ellen: Bad habits.
Safaree: Yeah, just usual stuff I
agree to but it's crazy how serious it is. Like burping and passing
gas.
Ellen: You can't burp or pass gas?!
Safaree: I mean like you can't laugh
like it's all funny. She don't want them to be doing it then
laughing.
Ellen: She wants them to have good
manners.
Safaree: Yeah. Yelling for no
reason. There's none of that. Wild horse playing is for outside. Just
stuff like that.
Ellen: Nothing major. Just everyday
mother rules.
Safaree: Yeah, yeah.
Ellen: So do you burp and laugh with
the boys?
Safaree: We get in trouble every
time. India's the only one that can get away with bad manners. She's
so lucky.
Ellen: What's something your boys
told you to do that got you in a heap of trouble with Nicki?
Safaree: Man. I don't know what
happened and I don't know how it happened but we ended up in a pet
store.
Ellen: No pets allowed?
Safaree: Definitely no pets allowed.
We had a puppy for a little but that was Tiona's little friend. So it
went with Tiona. Other than that, because of the traveling we are
used to, Nicki always had this thing about pets.
Ellen: But you spend more time at
home now.
Safaree: Yeah, that's why I didn't
see the problem. I think Nicki was just stuck on that set rule from
the past. I got caught up hanging with my little guys one day and we
ended up in a pet store. Next thing you know, I'm at home trying to
dodge hits and explain to Nicki why we are setting up this tank.
Ellen: What did you get?
Safaree: Turtle. Caleb has this
obsession with the ninja turtles. He looked at the puppies, the
hamsters, and all that good stuff but he was all over the glass for
these turtles. I talk Nicki into letting the guys get a turtle.
Ellen: Oh, so she agreed?!
Safaree: Eventually. We had a week
to figure it out. We set up everything it needs and come back to pick
it up.
Ellen: So that ended well.
Safaree: Nah, I actually came home
with four turtles instead of just one. I couldn't dodge those hits
for nothing.
Ellen: It's always something, huh?
Safaree: Always something. We just
have our own ways of handling stuff. We handle it differently.